Mom's Advice

Here's how it works. Mom's advice always comes when we are watching TV or she's reading the news or when she get some interesting stories from magazines or friends. I have to strongly state that my Mom is no gossip. And she'd tell us about some of it so that we learn from it.
Here's a situation:
Husband works away/ abroad. Husband is not in fine shape but every weekend, husband wants to come home. Wife dissuades husband, thinking of his health. It's okay. You don't have to come home. After some time, husband stops asking. Husband apparently married another in the country he works at.
Moral of the story: If husband wants to come home, let him come home. If husband invites wife to go abroad or holiday with him, go! If not, he wouldn't ask.
I don't know. I remember someone talking about a lady who'd follow her husband wherever he went as if it was a crime. I was like, I don't see anything wrong with that. It's when the husband doesn't ask to follow, it becomes suspicious. I remember reading an article (dun remember if it's a magazine or newspaper article) but this lady's husband would go for holiday with his buddies and apparently, he frequents prostitutes and the wife felt so betrayed when she found out that his trips were anything but innocent.
Mom always said that when you find a husband, don't find one who's nice to you and every other woman. If he can be nice to you, he can be equally nice to other women.
Mom also said don't marry men who are jealous all the time. You know, overpossessive. Some women may think it's an ego booster to have a man be jealous. But later, they'll live to regret it. I don't know. I always seem to attract people to come to me with their problems, even with strangers, on buses! I don't know if it's because I'm a good listener which I may be but close friends like to say it's because I'm not judgemental. Maybe, that's true coz I always believe that there's two sides to every coin.
Anyway, I met a young girl on a bus and when she found out I had a long distance marriage at that time asked me how I coped with it and I said that it's tough but managable. When my husband can't come back for the weekend, I'd go to him. My mom didn't trust me to take two kids on the bus, and all their baggage, so I'd go alone.
Then she got to telling me about her fiance. I congratulated her. She however was having doubts. She was not happy with him because he was possessive. When she came home from work, she's not allowed to leave her flat to go down to nearby restaurants to get her dinner and if she did so without his knowledge, he'd find out about it coz some of his friends live nearby and report on her. He thinks that she likes to go out and I asked if that was true and she said, 'Yes'. So were his fears or worries valid? Some might think he's a good and caring fiance and takes good care of her but she begged to differ. She couldn't be in contact with any of her friends from college or school but it was okay for him to still be in contact with his old friends. She was not allowed to wear certain clothes and so on. So should I say? I told her to think about it. Was she happy? Did she tell him that she was not happy with the way he treated her? YES. Were there changes? NO. Apparently, she had tried to break up with him many times but he didn't want to let her go. Oh dear.
So moral of the story: Yes, sometimes, it's nice to have a guy feel jealous but let it be for all the right reasons.